You won't make it

"You won't make it”.

I don't know about you, but I hear that a lot around me. Or told to me. Implied : “Don't do it, it's too risky”/ “Don’t do it you might fail”/”Don’t do it you might suffer” etc.etc.

Of course, our internal voices are telling this to us all the time. But when there's - on top of it- a figure of authority saying it, it becomes much more complicated to NOT listen to it.

The problem with this statement is not its intentions (to preserve us from something, an indefinite bad which might happen). It's the results - or lack of results I should say. Because experience shows that once you try to do something, you might fail or...you might succeed.

 In both cases, experience comes with a key learning : either that you can try, fail, and still feel good about the whole trying experience, either that you can trust yourself because you have proved you can succeed in the past.

So, my advice: listen to other people’ advice. But "you won't succeed" is not an advice. It's a prophecy that just waits for you to believe in it to make it happen (of course, if you don't do anything there's no chance you will succeed - nor fail as a matter of fact!).

On the other hand, "just do it" is not the right approach neither. It's an impulsive one which encourages you to not think.

Don't do that. Combine your strengths instead.